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fancycwabs) wrote2008-01-21 11:09 am
fancycwabs) wrote2008-01-21 11:09 am
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[Tiny Filter] My concerns.
Coming down with something. Hooray.
Mrs. Cwabs has been in a state for the last few months where I can't seem to do anything right, and has taken to denying me affection of any kind for a revolving set of reasons, including failure to perform adequate housework, failure to show adequate affection to the kids, failure to show adequate support for her staying out all night, et. al. I am concerned that there may be more to the story than she's letting on (perhaps another person), and that as soon as she figures out a way to extricate herself from our marriage I may be a divorcee. Suggestions that we attend counselling are met with the phrase that counselling will be of no use to us, because she already knows what's wrong.
Not sure precisely what to do--attempts to work out her LONG list of criticisms have so far met with no encouragement or reinforcement of any kind, but further distance. Concerned that there may be another force hard at work sabotaging our marriage. Expressions of this concern have met with non-denials, and the statement that she loves me, but is not in love with me, which is the romantic equivalent of "I hope you don't get hit by a bus."
Also concerned that I may be paranoid, and worried about a standard marital hiccup that we'll eventually get through. Mrs. Crabs has offered no reassurance of any kind.
Very concerned that I'm not able to talk to either of our families about this.
Mrs. Cwabs has been in a state for the last few months where I can't seem to do anything right, and has taken to denying me affection of any kind for a revolving set of reasons, including failure to perform adequate housework, failure to show adequate affection to the kids, failure to show adequate support for her staying out all night, et. al. I am concerned that there may be more to the story than she's letting on (perhaps another person), and that as soon as she figures out a way to extricate herself from our marriage I may be a divorcee. Suggestions that we attend counselling are met with the phrase that counselling will be of no use to us, because she already knows what's wrong.
Not sure precisely what to do--attempts to work out her LONG list of criticisms have so far met with no encouragement or reinforcement of any kind, but further distance. Concerned that there may be another force hard at work sabotaging our marriage. Expressions of this concern have met with non-denials, and the statement that she loves me, but is not in love with me, which is the romantic equivalent of "I hope you don't get hit by a bus."
Also concerned that I may be paranoid, and worried about a standard marital hiccup that we'll eventually get through. Mrs. Crabs has offered no reassurance of any kind.
Very concerned that I'm not able to talk to either of our families about this.
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Can't help but sending you all my mojo.
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I should note that Mrs. Cwabs criticisms are valid for the most part--I don't like housework, I'm not as affectionate as I should be with the children, and I don't like her staying out until all hours of the night doing God knows what. I have been laboring to work on all of these, however, with varying degrees of success, and zero positive response from her.
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