[Tiny Filter] Update on the bad situation:

[fancycwabs]

I was off sick for part of the day yesterday, and while I was at home I installed some spyware removal software on our son's (our son comes to visit on the weekends) computer. While doing so, I checked his surfing history, and discovered (amongst the porn--he is a fifteen-year-old) that someone had hit the burning man site and checked ticket prices on the Jan 16. Today I asked her if she'd bought tickets, and she said she had. I am assuming she's bought tickets for herself and her girlfriend (who has gone before), whom I also assume has taken my place in her heart, and possibly between her legs.

I cannot think of a single reason (save my marriage vow, which I take seriously) not to file for divorce. Amy has shown no indication that she's interested in reconciliation, but instead that she just wants to stay at the house so our daughter can remain in her school. As soon as that happens, I'm afraid she's going to leave me, saddled with a ton of debt that she's currently charging up.

Any of you lawyerly types of folks who've gone through this before have any advice on protecting myself?

UPDATE: We've talked a little. She has an explanation for the ticket, at least, and still claims that she's not cheating on me.

Comments

[fancycwabs.livejournal.com]

She makes more than I do, and I make pretty good money. It's well over twice (and almost three times) what she made when she was previously single with kids, and she survived (barely) then.

[fancycwabs.livejournal.com]

Well, it will be bad for whoever carries the house note for a while, assuming they also carry the credit card debt, and since all those things are in my name, I'm assuming that's me.

[fancycwabs.livejournal.com]

Neither of us would really want this house by ourselves--even though when we bought it it was her "dream home." My intention would be to repair it (kids and cats have done quite a bit of damage over nearly seven years) sell it, and split the proceeds down the middle. Still. Lawyer.

[phonemonkey.livejournal.com]

Sorry, I don't know how I missed all this, but what happened with you and Tom?

[fastlearner.livejournal.com]

Ack, I'm very sorry for you. Glad you're on good terms, though, and are working on sorting it all out.

[phonemonkey.livejournal.com]

This is what confused me - I'd seen references to him being in your house. Either way, it sounds like a very civil and sensible breakup.